when we think about it, it's really easy to be a taker than a giver...
a taker is someone who loves to be pampered, loves to be loved and showed affection. as a girl myself... :P i guess this might be our number 1. nature...
but a taker is evolved in a very selfish - self pity way. come to think of it, a taker will never learn to give, learn to share, but have a lots of expectations on others.. we always hear a taker say, gimme this, how about me..? all focus is around a taker.
i watched a program today, who reminded me that a cheerful giver is actually a person who know how to love. i remember a song that says: "i will serve you, because i love you.." A giver is a person who actually focuses on others, looks at how they can give. A giver listens, pays attentions and always notices the needs, the worries and what their love ones need... Love is actually allowing the other person to be the main party, instead of us. 真正的爱是以对方为主位, 不但看到对方的需要,也尊重他的意愿.
so how can we be a giver?
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